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Gratitude breeds gratitude;discontent breeds discontent April 26, 2014

Posted by mariemanthey in Thought for today.
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Everyone is free every day to choose how they want to experience the day.   As Dr. Phil says, ….we get to choose to contaminate or contribute…..every single day.    Often, the stress and workload in bedside nursing and in most hospital managerial roles can obscure this truth.    It can seem like everyone else has more impact on our experience than we do.

However, we can opt to contribute by intentionally reflecting on  the aspects of our lives and work that we are grateful for…..and we can intentionally refuse to spread discontent  by not engaging in it….even when we are invited to do so by a colleague.

It is time for each of us to take back the power we have to manage our own lives.   Choices have consequences.    Let us be clear about that and aware daily that we own our life experience.


1. Heidi Orstad - December 10, 2014

LOVE this quote. Other mantras I like to consider in the midst of situations that can feel conflict ridden is to “Believe in Positive Intent” and to “Find the shared goal”. These self-reminders help me to remove myself and my preconceived agendas or hard feelings from the act of finding a shared solution. I find them useful to consider in helping families through difficult times as well.

One example where these “centering” Mantras played out effectively was when I was working as a geriatric case manager with a patient, Bea, when she decided to align with hospice care. Bea and I had seen partnered through some aggressive hospital episodes, and after her last, she was not interested in further aggressive treatment. At 94 she was at peace and ready to die. She was worried that this decision would be hard for her family. I asked her to say more about that. Bea predicted the reaction of each of her four children, reactions which ranged from anger to despair, Bea and I talked also about the feelings that might trigger the anticipated reaction, realizing that they all stemmed from a positive intent (Love for her). We also talked about what her children might want for her ultimately at the end of her life, understanding that the shared goal would be her comfort. I then asked how she would like to see these conversations take place, offering myself and members of the hospice team as supports to her but recognizing that she was empowered to drive the conversation as much as she felt comfortable. Ultimately, Bea invited the children individually to meet at her apartment, The Hospice SW and I attended as well. While emotional, the conversations were so very beautiful. Having the opportunity to plan these crucial conversation with Bea and seeing them play out as they did was one of the most healing acts I witnessed as a nurse.

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